Future projection can be mentally and physically exhausting. A constant pull to achieve more, leaves you feeling as if there are not enough hours in the day. This is particularly the case if you are bombarded with messages and status symbols from the world around you. These messages give advice on how to look good, what you should wear, how to spend your money and what you need to achieve happiness.

 When a person is unsure about their choices, they are heavily influenced by the world they inhabit to provide answers. Personal choices such as relationships must live up to a list of criteria. A relationship is acceptable if it lives up to the expectation of society. A feeling of discontent arises when a relationship breaks down and blame is directed at the other person for not conforming to the ideal that society dictates.

 If you are not sure what brings joy and contentment, you can be easily led into other people’s perception of happiness. This leaves you dependent on outside influences to answer any questions about relationships and other matters in your life. If you are out of touch with who you really are, it is difficult to have a fulfilling life.

To tune into your true requirements for a happy fulfilling life experience, be still and ask for the truth to be revealed from higher self. We are all unique and we have diverse ways to express feelings of joy. What works for one person may not work for another. You may feel exhilaration when sky diving, but to someone who doesn’t like heights, it would be a scary experience.

 Allow each person to be as they are, to act in a manner they wish, and to see the world with their own eyes. Life experience teaches you what you enjoy and what you don’t enjoy. Focus on the feeling an experience gives you. If it makes you scared or upset, leave it alone, if it makes you joyful, stay with it. Feeling determines the quality of your experiences. You may participate in an activity because it is recommended by a friend or magazine article, but you find it unfulfilling. Trust your feeling body, it is your feedback mechanism from the universal field. Sometimes we focus on an upcoming event and how wonderful it will be. When the time arrives, the feeling is an anti-climax. Trying to project feeling unto a future event uses vast amounts of energy so that the event can never live up to the promise. 

How you feel now is crucial to what you are attracting into your life. Focus on the feeling within, let go of stories and dramas playing out over and over in your mind. Feel the feeling behind them. Feel the pain, grief or fear that continually attracts unwanted experiences. Feelings of fear focus on creating unhappy experiences. Feelings of joy attracts joyful experiences.

Extract from ‘In Quest of Love’ by Collette OMahony

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